Leftover Women Are Growing OUT OF CONTROL! They Are Left Single & Childless After The Carousel Stops

本站收录: 2026-05-16

[00:00:00]I'm tired of people telling me that I'm good-looking, talented, I have a great personality, and that everybody would be lucky to date me. And yet, I'm still [ __ ] single. I'm tired of people telling me to put myself out there when I've put myself out there so many times and nothing ever works out for me. It just ends up being super awkward or they ghost me or I get heartbroken. I'm tired of people telling me to go on different dating apps when I've tried literally every dating app on the market and it's always the same [ __ ] Guys only ever want to have sex or hookup. It's very rare to find someone that wants to go on a date with me. And then if I do go on a date with them and then they realize that I don't want to have sex with them right off the bat. They stop talking to me and they completely ignore me and do a whole 180 and act like they hate me since the moment that they met me on the stupid app. And then if I go with women, most of them don't even talk. And the ones that do talk give me very dry conversations. And if I have dates with them, they end up just being my friend.

[00:00:50]I'm tired of making friends on dating apps. Like all these people are amazing and I love them, but I want somebody to love me. romantically. I want someone to hold me, someone to kiss me, someone to cuddle with me, someone I can talk to late at night, cry to them. I'm tired of making all of these great friends that don't give me the emotional and physical supports that I need. And I'm so tired of people being LIKE, "WELL, IT'S NOT your looks that's the problem." Clearly, because I've seen other big girls get into relationships, too. What am I doing wrong? What am I doing wrong? Why am I still single? I'm so tired of it.

[00:01:26]So, is there anybody who is actually single anymore? Because what I've noticed is I attract married men, taken men, men who are confused on what they want to be or who they want to be. I mean, like, where is the single men?

[00:01:47]Where is the black godly men who go to church and actually really do serve the Lord?

[00:01:58]So today I was asked why I'm single and the answer is very simple. Okay, I am single by choice because if I wanted to be in a relationship, I could just make one phone call and that can change. But these days these men have no self-control, no self-discipline. They have no courtship. They have no communication. And I'm not saying every man, I'm not saying that. But the men who seem to like want to talk to me just think that they could just be in my inbox and just boom, that's just what it is. No, that's not that's not what it is for me. Okay? I still believe in flowers. I still believe in dates. I still believe in gifts. I still believe in partnership. And that's just not out there in my opinion. Okay? This is my opinion. And for me, I'd rather just stay single. I don't got time. Like every time I open up a social media app, the same person who is in my DMs are like on other females posts and [ __ ] and it's it's kind of hilarious. It doesn't make me mad because I honestly don't care, but it just proves a point to me that there's no there's no self-discipline or I mean everybody's just for everybody and I am not. I'm just not. So that's the answer. This might be controversial and I might even get cancelled for it, but you know what?

[00:03:17]It's real. It's me. It's how I feel. I don't think I have met a smart man. I think men are capable of reading comprehension, maybe even memorization.

[00:03:26]Fine. As I get older, I'm nearing my 40s, and I'm third wheeling with a lot of my friends. I'm seeing relationships between my family, and I don't think I've ever met a smart man. And I mean this in a way where I don't think any of the men that I know could live the life that they do currently without their wives.

[00:03:46]Just today I was talking to a friend about some guy not reaching out to her blah blah blah and she's thinking if he wanted to he would.

[00:03:54]I think he could want to as long as he lives and he wouldn't because he's not smart. It gets to a point where you just have to do whatever you want to get what you want. So, if you want this guy who hasn't text you back, [ __ ] text him.

[00:04:08]Do whatever you want. [ __ ] drag his ass to the altar if you want to marry him. And I think that's what it is. And I'm looking at my friends who are in relationships and they've molded their partners to be exactly what they want.

[00:04:21]And that goes obviously without conversation and discussion, but that's it. I feel like single women forget that every husband that seems to be a good partner has been molded. They didn't come out that way. So, stop giving men the benefit of the doubt and do whatever you want with them. They're stupid.

[00:04:44]>> When I tell people that I haven't dated in years and I have no desire to, and their first instinct is to say, "Oh, you could just go outside and probably find a date."

[00:04:54]Do you have any idea that how much I don't want to [ __ ] do that? Okay. Are there nights that I would like to not have to sleep alone or would like to be cuddled or share experiences with somebody? Sure, of course. Be great. But then it's nights like this where I'm in this house alone, this big ass bed by myself. I got my heated blanket. I got the fan on. I'm happy. I'm exactly where the [ __ ] I want to be. And it's nobody in here stealing my energy.

[00:05:25]I'm just And this [ __ ] this [ __ ] is so much better than settling for some [ __ ] ass crusty dusty musty [ __ ] So I highly recommend just single life to everybody.

[00:05:47]H it's glorious. And I got a king ass side. When I tell you I'm gonna turn sideways in this bed tonight, you know why? Because I can.

[00:05:57]Nobody can stop me.

[00:05:59]And that is greater than anything. Guys, I'm so over dating. I'm actually over it. I've only just started again and I'm already [ __ ] over it. I feel like I'm incapable of liking anyone again. I feel like I cannot like anyone ever again.

[00:06:15]The same conversations, the same questions asked. Bloody swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe. Oh, you don't meet anyone organically. When you do, they end up being an [ __ ] anyway. Where do you meet people? At work. I don't want to date my coworker again. Everyone just wants to get drunk and sleep with each other. No one wants to get married anymore. Everyone still loves their ex.

[00:06:38]Everyone's going through horrible heartbreak. Like, it's just it's it's the gutters out here. We're in the trenches, girls. I genuinely give up. I give up. All the women in their 20s, coming from a woman in her 40s, I have something to say to you about worrying about what everyone else thinks of you.

[00:06:54]You're not stuck. You just don't trust yourself.

[00:06:58]I think that trusting yourself just comes with age and experience, but I am here to hopefully save you that in your 20s. Trust yourself. Life is not a group project. You do not have to worry about what other people think of you as long as you're not being like harmful or damaging to other humans. So, like if you want to take that job or move across the country or like I don't know, get a pet, do it. You don't have to ask anyone's permission. That's the beauty of being an adult. You can kind of do whatever you want. Now, it is important that you're making good decisions and being a good person because I'm here to tell you as a woman in her 40s that the decisions you make in your 20s will affect you for the rest of your life.

[00:07:39]But again, life isn't a group project.

[00:07:41]You do not have to worry about what your parents think, what your siblings think, what your friends think. Like, stop crowdsourcing opinions. Trust yourself.

[00:07:49]Trust your gut. Trust yourself when you see red flags in things. And that doesn't just have to be relationships.

[00:07:55]That can be anything.

[00:07:58]Make the moves. You're not stuck. You just don't trust yourself enough.

[00:08:04]They say, "You're beautiful. You're smart. You look like a wellput together woman. Why are you single? Well, have you seen the options out here in the dating pool for women? I mean, you get on these dating apps and these men are on here with posing with pictures looking all [ __ ] scruffy and [ __ ] like they don't even wash their face or brush their teeth or get a haircut. And then the ones that are wellgroomed get on here acting like they're just on here to pose for a [ __ ] GQ magazine or something but always talking about they're single and never really approach a woman with anything to [ __ ] offer cuz they're [ __ ] frightening. Well, guess what? I'm a woman with substance.

[00:08:46]I can take care of me. But however, I do understand what a man's job is to do and his obligation is when he wants to be with a woman. So, with that being said, I think you men need to step your game up. This is a message for the single girlies in their 30s. I have something that you absolutely have to hear. And this is coming from someone that met my husband at 35. I got married at 38 and just had my first baby at 39. So, I get it. It is rough out there. And this is what you need to hear. I just got off the phone with my younger brother who is 37. He lives here in Austin. Asked him, "What are you up to tonight? It's a Thursday." And he said that he has two of his guys coming to his apartment and together they're going to practice a new recipe because one of these guys met a girl online dating and wants to make this recipe for her and so they're all going to make it together and make sure it's good enough. Are you kidding? Like how wholesome and amazing and sweet. And I just couldn't help but share this because I know how it feels to think like all the good guys are gone. And these are three guys in their mid to late 30s that have great jobs. They are single, never been married, no kids, and they are looking for their wives. They are looking for their soulmates. They want to have families. And I just had to share this because I I remember that feeling of there are no good guys left.

[00:10:06]They've all been married in their late 20s and it's too late for us. And it is not too late. So, if you are seeing this, don't give up hope. I know for sure there are three amazing, attractive, successful men in Austin that are looking for single gals in their 30s. So, don't give up.

[00:10:24]>> Here's some advice for your 30s that is not cute or inspirational from a 55-year-old. That friend you keep giving chances to, she's not misunderstood.

[00:10:33]She's just like that. Nobody's thinking about you. Post the thing. You don't hate your job, you hate that you have one. Therapy works when you stop lying to your therapist. Your back hurts because you sit like a gargoyle. Stop saying yes on Monday to things you will resent by Friday. Call your dad. If you have to convince yourself that's the answer. You're not bad with money. You just keep buying stuff. Block him. Block him. Block him. That hobby you don't have time for. You had 4 hours for Tik Tok and Instagram yesterday. He's not your soulmate. He's just tall. Sunscreen everyday. Yes, even today. The relationship isn't complicated. You just don't like the answer. Stop crowdsourcing decisions you've already made. Floss. I'm serious. Your future self is begging you. That book on your nightstand, it's not going to read itself. And your ex, he's not thinking about you. He's eating a sandwich. Hope that helps.

[00:11:30]>> As a real deal girl, you got to realize there's no love out here for us anymore.

[00:11:36]The These men don't even want love.

[00:11:39]I promise you they don't even want love anymore. Who? Actually, whoever said men don't let these hoes.

[00:11:46]You're lying. They were just trying to get us off track, trying to distract us, trying to make us feel good. Cuz let me tell you something. If you didn't already know, I'm going to tell you, they love them. Yeah, they actually love them.

[00:11:58]So, ain't no love out here for us lover girls. If you're a lover girl, just stay put up. Stay out the way. Pour the love into yourself cuz these men don't want it. If you guys forgot, I'm 29 and single and I'm having one of those Monday mornings where I woke up feeling like I wanted to cry, which doesn't happen to me often anymore despite, you know, the whole like viral People magazine moment on here that happened last summer. Um, yeah, like for the most part I feel pretty good about being 29, almost 30 and single. But today just like really hit me because like I'm tired. I'm tired of dating. Like, I don't know. It's just like every person that I meet, there's just something something off there. Something doesn't feel right or I'm like bracing myself for it to end. And I don't know if I should like take a break from dating. I'm not even really actively dating that heavily. you know, I'll go on Hinge and like swipe a little bit and whatever, but there's never anything good on there to be honest with you.

[00:13:02]Rya, don't even get me started on that.

[00:13:04]And then yeah, there's like meeting in the wild, but like I don't know.

[00:13:12]I'm just tired of like being by myself.

[00:13:15]It's been like my entire 20s pretty much.

[00:13:20]So yeah, I don't know if you guys have any advice for me, but I just wanted to show you guys that it's not all rainbows and butterflies over here. Like I set up my camera when I want to inspire people that are upset about being 29 or 30 or whatever and single and then there's days like today where it's like really really hitting me.

[00:13:42]I just like want to be in love, you know? I just saw this Tik Tok of this girl saying that um women are not getting courted anymore. Like men are not wanting to court women anymore. Um and you go to the comments and the comments are just so [ __ ] sad because it's women in their like 40s, 50s. Like they've never been on a date. They've only been lusted over. They have never been courted, never even bought a flower, anything like that. And first of all, it's just so [ __ ] sad. But then second of all, I immediately just started to think as a 22year-old, and I've been on plenty of dates. I've been on plenty of dates um with men of all different ages. The thing is there's no there's nothing special about courtsmanship anymore. There's nothing special about it. Like I mean everyone is just so lustful and so sexual. I mean it's like you know the point of being courted is to you know feel special, feel wanted, feel adored and loved. It's just basically [ __ ] love bombing now cuz the ultimate goal is just for them to get you in their bed. Like what is so [ __ ] special about this? You guys aren't missing out on much.

[00:14:44]>> Unfortunately, I think dating's been destroyed by modernday dating apps. No one yearns anymore. No one courts.

[00:14:54]It's all done for the easiest possible way to get the job done. Get someone into bed or just slap a label on it and say, "Oh, you're my girlfriend now.

[00:15:05]You're my boyfriend now." There's no effort. No one no one's interested in actually trying to get someone and keeping them or they do manage to get someone and then the effort changes and it's like well I've got you now so I don't really need to make I don't need to do anything more with that and this is why I say I want to stay single because I don't want halfass effort.

[00:15:34]I stopped dating males years ago because I came to realize that dating males is a high risk, high effort, no reward activity.

[00:15:45]And it's really funny because a lot of women ask me about dating and I say, "Yeah, I stopped dating years ago. It wasn't worth my time." And they literally cannot believe me. The majority of them are not handsome.

[00:15:57]They're not fun to be around. They're not intelligent. They're stingy. They're not generous. They don't take care of their bodies. They don't take care of themselves, period. They can't stay hard for more than 30 seconds. They're baby daddies with kids in different area codes that they don't provide for. They don't get tested. They're annoying and they're miserable. It is a high-risk, no reward activity to be dealing with men.

[00:16:24]Unless they are putting stacks of cash in your hand and turning around and leaving you alone, it is not worth the effort. And for those of you who are saying, you know, the only thing I like about them is laying with them. They don't even do that well. So, what are we really talking about these days? I would rather have my life and not have to perform for a being who's not even on my level anything.

[00:16:50]>> Tell me why I'm out here dating, meeting men. In the last like year and a half, I've just like put myself out there meeting these men. They look [ __ ] perfect. You know, there's like small things, but I'm like, you know what?

[00:17:01]Like nobody's perfect. You know what I mean?

[00:17:04]Mask slips. I'm like, "Oh, that's scary." I run. I don't take [ __ ] I don't take that [ __ ] They try. I'm too smart. They tried to manipulate, gaslight, and then I clock it and we say, "No, not today, buckaroo. You're gone. I know I played college softball, but one strike you out, [ __ ] Cuz if you do it now, you're going to do it again.

[00:17:26]And I ain't taking that shit." M.

[00:17:29]Absolutely not. So, we're closed for business. Do not disturb on by 8:00 p.m.

[00:17:33]Don't text. Don't call. Don't ask me on a [ __ ] date, [ __ ] I'm out.

[00:17:37]Leave me alone. Heavy on the leave me alone cuz I'm out here. I'm going to live my life. Leave me alone.

[00:17:44]I've had enough. I'm done. I'm done. Cuz I've seen what I needed to see. I've heard what I needed to hear. And that's enough for me.

[00:17:54]>> I'm so [ __ ] tired of being single.

[00:17:56]I'm 24. I've never dated anyone before.

[00:17:59]And by never dated, I mean I've never even held hands with a man. I'm tired of having to be independent. I'm tired of having to do everything by myself all the time. I'm tired of having to bring all the groceries up from the car by myself. I'm tired of having to always cook for myself because it's just me.

[00:18:13]So, if I don't cook, I don't eat. I'm tired of having to go and do cool and fun things by myself. And I can do it by myself because I've always done it by myself. But it would be nice to have a partner to go out to lunch and dinner with and try all these new experiences with and go to the farmers market with and not having to do everything by myself all the [ __ ] time. I am constantly alone. It's constantly just me. If something happens, the only person I can rely on is me because there's no one else there.

[00:18:46]Dating in 2026 is so ghetto and I'm going to continue standing 10 toes on that until I'm proven otherwise. So, I was having a conversation with my girlfriends and just to give you guys context, I am 29 years old. I've been single for six years. I have no kids. I have a career. I am at a place in my life where I'm dating to marry, but I've given dating a pause just because of the challenges that I've been having when it comes to dating. So, we were having a conversation about my dating life, and what I've come to conclusion is that the younger men are the sweetest men ever, but they're still figuring out their life. And I am not there. I, like I said, I'm dating to marry. So, young men are out and I've dated men my age that just like to play games. They don't even know how to set up a date. They are very inconsistent.

[00:19:49]It's just bad. So, men my age, they are just a waste of time. And then I've also dated older men. And let me tell you about older men. Older doesn't mean mature. If anything, they are way worse than men age. So, I'm at a point in my life where I just decided to take a break because I either need to pause, self-reflect, and really ask myself, how can I date differently? So to all the girlies who have are in healthy relationships who were in the trenches once, please any advice that you would advise that you would give to any girls who are out here in the trenches, still single, who are dating to marry, who are intentional, who are ready to be wives.

[00:20:47]What do you suggest? What did you do differently? Or how did you attract the man that you are with today?

[00:20:56]Please, because we are struggling out here. Thank you. If >> you would have told me four years ago when I stopped dating that I would be the happiest I've ever been in my life, I would have thought you were crazy because I grew up always thinking that the happiest I'd ever be was when I found my person. And in that first year, it did feel kind of weird to stop dating. Felt like there was kind of a void in my life. Also kind of awkward talking to a lot of my friends that were married that thought I was crazy because I wasn't still trying to find my person.

[00:21:22]Also in that first year I did wrestle with loneliness, a lot of self-doubt too, wondering like why I wasn't chosen or how come everybody else was married and not me and I had a very woe is me mentality around dating. But then after I say that first year passed, I started really notice my life starting to flourish. My career started taking off, my mental health, my physical health. I started to develop new friendships. And then somewhere along that second year, I started to feel less sad about the fact that I hadn't been picked or hadn't found my person. Instead, I started to feel really empowered that I was doing life on my own and I was truly enjoying it. I think that when you take a break from dating, it's kind of like a journey you go on. You wrestle with the loneliness, the way that your life is supposed to look and you kind of grieve that and then you kind of blossom into realizing that like there's so much freedom when you're on your own and you learn to enjoy it. I spent 3 months on my own traveling all over Europe. I went to Italy, Sicy, France. I had the time of my life. If you have taken a break from dating, where are you at in this journey? Are you thinking about taking a break from dating or are you like 6 years in and you're on your own and you're like done with that with the start? Are you all the way at the end?

[00:22:29]I'm curious. Quickly want to jump on here and tell you why it is so elite being single in your 30s. All my money, it goes into me. My skin never been better. All I do is spend my money on facials and Botox and self-care treatments. Look at this. This is like glowing. Can you hear that silence? No screaming babies, no children. No children. All I'm going to do tonight is go out, drink champagne, and go for dinner. What? That's all I have to do.

[00:22:53]And then tomorrow I'm waking up and I'm actually flying to Melbourne because last week my friend and I decided to go to the F1. Like literally last week, we're like, let's go. So we we just go we go. Like I have to pack my bag tonight and I'm also going on a date when I land. So that's a bit exciting.

[00:23:07]And I don't know what to wear cuz it's a breakfast date. But these are these are my worries. These are my worries. Like my worries are literally what I'm going to wear to the F1 in Melbourne, like and what I'm going to wear on my date. What school